This is not an article containing tips on how to make your skin glow with radiant tan lotion. Nor is it an endorsement of plastic surgery and extreme makeovers. Quite the opposite. I believe that we must feel beautiful in order to be beautiful, and that we must understand our own unique beauty contained within us. When we tap into our own inner beauty, and start to feel comfortable in ourselves, we will start to radiate confidence and beauty outwardly, and other people will begin to perceive our self love.
False Image of Beauty
The first barrier to our own birth-right of beauty, is the perceived image of beauty that is constantly fed to us by the media. We see the latest trend of what women should look like, in this decade skinny to their ribs, and images airbrushed and photoshopped to perfection, so that not a blemish remains on the once human skin. We see breasts and torso and all the latest expensive fashion; the clothes and the make up and the gym and the fake eyelashes.
I could write a whole essay on how this image effects our self confidence, and leads to insecurities which prevent us from seeing our own beauty. We often compare ourself to a preconceived norm of what beauty is, and this ideal is both unobtainable and false. So we must understand that back in the real world everyone looks different, and has different qualities both physical and in their personality.
Stop trying to be the image of beauty that is shown in the media, and instead choose to think deeply about what beauty really is and what it really means. Is it always physical, or is it something else? If it is physical is it always a flat belly, perfect tube lips and flawless skin, or is the unique freckles on the face of a lover, the plumpness of a belly, and the cute wonky feature of someone’s ear? The truth is that beauty is all of these, and it is none of them. Beauty is an interpretation, an art form, and it is indeed in the eye of the beholder.
Who Is the Beholder That Decides What Beauty Is?
There are only a handful of beholders that really matter once we stop trying to be something we are not, and stop trying to conform to an image of beauty that does not suit us, and does not express who we truly are. When we want to become our own idea of beauty, the first and most important beholder, is ourself. You. You are the primary beholder of your own beauty. When you look in the mirror you must like what you see, even if it is not blond hair, blue eyes, and a six pack of muscle. When you think about yourself, you must think good thoughts. Then you will be beautiful.
So what is beautiful about you? Only you can decide, and perhaps a few significant others, because beauty is also in the eye of another beholder; your loved ones, be they partners, friends or family. Do your friends and family think you are a beautiful person? Listen to them. Have you settled into your own beauty enough for other people to feel it? Your loved ones are the only other people who can help you to be beautiful, and their perceptions matter more than that of a stranger, or of a Hollywood movie star. They are the second most important beholder after yourself.
How to Be Beautiful
So, to be beautiful you do not have to change anything, or do anything new, or try to be different. You do not have to try and become something you are not, not for anyone. All you need to do is to feel comfortable in yourself. You need to feel the strength of your inner beauty by knowing that you are a good person, knowing that you are worthy of love, and that you have a lot to give. When you feel comfortable in yourself, in your own body, in your personality, then you will know your own true beauty. Other people will know your beauty too, and they will see it for what it is; a unique expression of who you are.
Beauty is a truly personal thing. It cannot be captured on a postcard, or written in a manual. Everyone has their own beauty, both in their mind, and body. My only tip for being beautiful is to get to know yourself, express those parts of you that cry out to be expressed. Dress how you want to dress, wear as much or as little make up as you like. Diet or train at the gym, or don’t if it is not your style. Cultivate your intelligence, your creativity, your inspiration and drive for life. They are all beautiful. More than anything know and understand yourself, and slip into your personal beauty, that true and powerful beauty that we all have.