I wonder, what ever happened to mine? I have been hanging out in limbo for so long I forgot what it was I was aiming for in life. Watching a few friends pursue their goal of settling down on some land, installing solar panels and rain catchment systems, caring for chickens, and otherwise making a go at living a simple, self-sufficient life, I realize that I kind of forgot all about it. I’ve been wandering aimlessly, trying to make ends meet, doing things I am not even interested in – all instead of chasing my goals.
This fall I will start over. You’ll see. I’m not writing this for any reason other than to attempt to hold myself accountable in some way. I hope you are pursuing your goals, whatever they may be. See you soon.
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Go for it! I was feeling the same way, so I applied for a working holiday visa and will be moving to NZ in 6 months for a year. My dream is to travel and have adventures in this life. Just remember: you are not stuck. Never give up on a dream because of the time it will take to accomplish it. Time will pass anyway!
Good to see you’re still with us David, it’s been a while! Like Maia said, go for it! I’ve been in my own version of your limbo for going on 3 years now and am sick of it. I need out of this town and out of this life (the IT part of it, the rest I’m rather fond of). Like you, I’m taking steps, however slowly and however small at first, but they’re pointed in the right direction. Let’s see where we both end up, shall we?
Jesse
Someone wrote this to me six months ago —- “my reality is your dream”. It was sad to hear, but what’s worse is that I’ve done nothing to change my situation since then.
What is holding you back? Fear of the unknown? Having no money? Failing?
Are those outcomes really bad? What is wrong with them? They will develop you as a person…. isn’t that what it’s about?
It is so easy to lose focus…it has happened to me over & over.
If I don’t keep things right in front of me I forget, it is awful!
I think that is why the dream boards are important…I need to make one representing those things that I really want so I stay focused and don’t lose track.
It is just like when I try to lose weight…when I track what I eat everyday & stay focused on it I do really well. Then I get busy one day and forget…then I quit completely. Then I backslide for a year before I realize that I totally forgot what I was doing! Duh!
At least you do have people around you that are fulfilling their dreams, so you can use them as inspiration! That is much better than being surrounded by miserable people who seem to want to suck you down in to their deep hole of despair with them rather than seeing you accomplish your dreams. That negativity is a huge force to be reckoned with…
Apathy & Negativity
It seems I am fighting both constantly.
I wil not give up the fight though.
Hears to Living a Life of Our Dreams!
You are an inspiration, even when you think you’re not doing anything of importance. Go for it and keep us posted!
There are always plateaus in life. They give us time to rest and reflect. The trick is not to settle in for too long before moving forward. Best wishes!
I have been in the same place as well. The fact that you remain conscious enough to stop every once in a while and take stock indicates that hope is alive. It is NEVER too late to start over. Just think of this as a course correction, lol.
Interesting post David. I think I recognize that feeling. 2012 was definitely a year in which I felt like I was spinning my wheels – some progress on the financial side – but not so much in other areas. I think you should definitely write a follow up article – for example, what are your dreams – are they defined? Let us know how things go!
It is hard sometimes to even think about your dreams when you are trying to survive, even if that means financially. It is great though that you were able to realize that you need to revisit your goals, even if they have changed. Many times when we go through a time of struggle, it changes our perspective as well as our goals. It’s ok if they have changed too.
MarieG LifeSimplyBalanced.com
This post inspires me. Thank you!