Goodbye, Facebook.

Posted: May 4th, 2011 | 71 Comments »

About a month ago I closed my Facebook account. After spending months thinking about it while always wasting time checking it throughout the day (for what, I don’t know), I decided it was time to close it. I tried digital sabbaticals and it wasn’t enough — so now it’s gone. And what I have I missed ever since I did?

Absolutely nothing.

I no longer hear from someone I once knew in 8th grade about their child’s first poop in the toilet. I am no longer bombarded with Farmville requests, Mafia Wars invites, or unknowingly (and without permission) tagged in someone’s terribly embarrassing photo album from college. I no longer have to be a “fan” of something in order to read an article. I no longer have to watch as people I really don’t know update me with ground-breakingly important status updates like “Going to the mall!” or “Loving these new socks!” or “I hate my haircut.” It’s all a waste of time and I am done with it; I have better things to do with any free time I do have to myself. Want to cut out the clutter and the fat and live simply? Get rid of Facebook. It’s amazing how freeing it is and just how much of your time it takes up.

Facebook is designed (and free for you to use because of it) to be a narcissistic website which uses your personal information in order to market and sell stuff to you. Email lists, contacts, “Likes”, photographs — all of this is being used by Facebook and marketers in order to learn more about you… and then to try to get you to buy stuff. Add in the fact that Facebook shares your home numbers, email addresses, home addresses, spouses name, children’s names, etc. with the rest of the world, and, well, any sense of privacy you think you have doesn’t exist.

Don’t get me wrong — I truly enjoy hearing from those who read my websites the same as I hope the authors of the sites I read enjoy hearing from me. But Facebook isn’t real, it’s not honest, it’s not a good use of time. I found myself checking it off and on all day long, only to find out that someone named Joey had a salad for lunch. That doesn’t make Joey my friend; it makes him someone who is sucking time and energy right out of my life.

I talk to my real life friends in my real life. I correspond with blog readers either through the comment sections or via email. But Facebook? It’s filled with 99% nonsense that I have to weed through to find the 1% of good stuff. My Simple.Organized.Life. is going to be without the filler and only with the good stuff. If you are feeling overwhelmed by the noise which is filling up social media like I am, I suggest taking a break (or a permanent vacation from) Facebook. It’s amazing what you don’t miss at all and all that you gain back.

Want to get in touch? Want to be friends? Shoot me an email or leave a comment; let’s have a real conversation. Goodbye Facebook — it’s been “fun.”


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71 Comments on “Goodbye, Facebook.”

  1. 1 mara said at 3:49 pm on May 4th, 2011:

    I don’t understand why you thought you “have to watch as people I really don’t know update me with ground-breakingly important status updates like ‘Going to the mall!’”

    “Have to”? What exactly was compelling you to friend them, or keep them friended?

  2. 2 Nicole J. said at 4:12 pm on May 4th, 2011:

    I have found myself addicted to facebook at various times over the last couple of years, but its a phase that always passes. I spend anywhere from 0-20 minutes a day on facebook, most of that is skimming the feed for news from organizations, blogs, people that I honestly want to know. I also like looking at photos from all the different people. And honestly, if it wasn’t for facebook I wouldn’t keep in touch with my friends or family nearly as well.
    But having said all that, I am jealous. I wish I could kick facebook, but then I would just spend more time on twitter. Kind of like the alcoholics who throw themselves into coffee and cigarettes once sober.

  3. 3 Kat said at 4:24 pm on May 4th, 2011:

    I have been facebook free for 7 months! I have found that if my family and friends want to know what I’m up to they can pick up the phone. It’s strangely quiet.. :) My sister calls and tells me everyone asks her where I am and what I’m doing. Haha. I should’ve told her not to tell them a thing. And speaking of fb… my cousin texted me today and tried to persuade me to log back in. I simply said “why?” I actually may have replaced fb with some other social sites though.. hmmm have a nice evening!

  4. 4 Janet said at 4:42 pm on May 4th, 2011:

    While I always enjoy reading your posts, I found this one to be a little preachy. I use FB in a way that is not addictive or disruptive. I only see posts from my close friends and family, am only visible to them (and not public). You only have to hit the x anytime you see farmville and you never have to see it again.

    It’s not THAT you use FB but HOW you use it.

  5. 5 Susan said at 9:20 pm on May 4th, 2011:

    I have found Facebook to be the best way to keep in touch with my family. I have six brothers and sisters, and we don’t all live in the same town.

    I have things visible only to those I want to see them, and I filter things out of my feed that I don’t want to see.

    How is an email or a comment any more real than Facebook?

  6. 6 Santa Maradona said at 12:28 am on May 5th, 2011:

    1: I feel less guilty when I read about such minimalist as you are, who–just like me–can’t resist to FB, although he know how much time he wastes.

    2: Wouldn’t be better just to get rid of ‘friends’ you don’t care?
    I’ve just made an opposite move–I said ‘hallo’ to FB after years of resistance–and I think it’s a great place to share information, organize events etc.
    Why have I created FB account? Well, it’s waste of time–that’s true, however I think it’s like this, because of something else–because of me!
    When I didn’t had FB account, when I’ve eliminated every ‘unnecessary’ sites, feeds, etc., it freed so much time, that I had started wasted time in a million other ways! I admire you didn’t yet, but maybe you will?
    I don’t know how to protect myself from wasting time…

    So it isn’t a good way for me. I think when I would have something very interesting to do, which I’ll be excited to do, facebook issue will just disappear. I think that’s a cause, not just FB itself.

    3: I miss here one thing: priorities. My close friends’ (which are rather silent on FB) messages should have priority over compulsive FB users.

  7. 7 c00kiemon5ter said at 4:07 am on May 5th, 2011:

    Hey there, you may wanna take a look at spokt (http://www.spokt.com/) as a facebook alternative. Get a hub with your family and another will your friends. It works nice :)

    I totally agree, mobile phones work great :) but(!) facebook has the girls :p
    (yeah, I know that’s not exactly an argument, and it’s pretty arguable that one’d need facebook to meet a girl, or that the girl using facebook is somebody you’d like to meet ..but it’s true, most chicks dig facebook).

  8. 8 Daria said at 6:58 am on May 5th, 2011:

    I agree with everything you’ve written. I have never had a FB account primarily because I didn’t like the idea of all my personal information being so readily available. What if someone I didn’t want to find me from my past began contacting me? But also because I view it as narcissistic.
    I realize that people say the value of it is to rediscover people from your past. But my view is that if any of those people I went to high school or college with really cared about me, they would have kept in touch with me all along.

  9. 9 markododa said at 8:23 am on May 5th, 2011:

    I had deleted my fb account a week ago and reinstated it yesterday, needed to check some event. A time off facebook is a great way to solve the time wasting habit but to quit it altogether is silly.

  10. 10 David said at 8:45 am on May 5th, 2011:

    It may be silly to you, sure. But to some, it isn’t. :)

  11. 11 David said at 8:48 am on May 5th, 2011:

    Totally my point, Daria. Personally, I like having my beliefs/choices challenged and don’t take it personally. Obviously, I hit a nerve for some people — and in my book that’s a good thing. Challenging convention leads to thought :)

  12. 12 David said at 8:49 am on May 5th, 2011:

    Because it’s directed right at me or to someone. Status updates are a narcissistic way of letting everyone know something one did at once with no personalization. :)

  13. 13 David said at 8:51 am on May 5th, 2011:

    A few thoughts:

    1. Privacy is not as private as you think. Hackers can get that info if they want it because it’s there for the taking.
    2. No one said you can’t keep FB; since this site is about living simply and I felt that FB was taking away from my ability to do so, I got rid of it. Problem solved for me. I like challenging conventional thinking!

  14. 14 David said at 8:51 am on May 5th, 2011:

    Totally! If I want someone to know something or if someone wants to talk to me, they still know where to find me. I lived without FB before and I can do so again :)

  15. 15 David said at 8:54 am on May 5th, 2011:

    When supposed “good” friends fill up your stream with nonsense, why keep FB at all if that’s what it’s for? Email and the telephone is way more personal :)

  16. 16 Phil said at 8:55 am on May 5th, 2011:

    Use Facebook. Don’t use Facebook. It’s not what you use, it’s how you use it.

    It’s a website, not a life choice.

  17. 17 Riki Ishibe said at 9:00 am on May 5th, 2011:

    I found it helpful to go through my friends list once a month and delete all of the “friends” that (a) I have not seen in a long while and do not plan/want to anyway, (b) are just feed clutterers / request spammers / invitation maniacs or (c) I have not really talked to in real life and only friended in the first place because our workplace was the same or something.

    Now I keep a “De-friending candidates” list on facebook and put people in there if I foresee the facebook relationship not being important =D

    Like Janet said, I agree, it’s not THAT you use FB but HOW you use it.

  18. 18 Craig said at 9:02 am on May 5th, 2011:

    Lol, I did like your article. Though I have to say that thank you in large part to the glorious Zimbabwean Govt, my really good friends and my family are spread globally, I am selective about who gets to post on to my news feed, and hide all the others. But in terms of just keeping in touch with my family and friends who I miss and am so very far away from, Facebook is great. I get to see my cousins as they grow, my grandparents get to see their Great grandchildren as they grow. I get to see my best man’s kids grow, and keep in touch with them in a way that I just did not have time for in the past. Yes it is all about how you use it.

  19. 19 David said at 9:11 am on May 5th, 2011:

    It’s also IF you use it or not. That’s a choice, too. :)

  20. 20 elle said at 9:16 am on May 5th, 2011:

    You sound like you didn’t really use facebook as you could. Delete those random people who you aren’t friends with, block requests to stupid games. You can, you know.

    I love using facebook to stay in touch with my family and few close friends. We all work different hours, and across the city so its great to log in while I sip my coffee in the AM and find how my little sister was doing after her 1am shift ended. She can’t call me after her shift, since I am asleep, and I can’t call her while I am awake since she is asleep. We are connect via these quick updates and little tidbits of information.

    Not to mention it is a great way to highlight articles or ideas that I know are of interest to people who are close to me in spirit, but not in space.

  21. 21 Blake said at 9:19 am on May 5th, 2011:

    David,
    I really agree with you on this topic. I was on FB for a while and didn’t gain any source of accomplishment or satisfaction by using it. I honestly felt like a lab rat waiting for the next food pellet when I would open it and see those red icons indicating a new message from someone. I could list a host of reasons of how FB can lead people away from engaged real conversation but I’m at work, and am taking a break from work. I will say that communication on FB is much like a street encounter with two people going in opposite directions. They stop, say hello, and keep going. As far as communication goes, I continue to write old fashioned letters. I may not get letters in return, but it’s one way to maintain a secret belief that it’s private. FB, in my opinion, is also moving our younger generation to rely wholly upon instant gratification, but with communication.

  22. 22 bill said at 9:27 am on May 5th, 2011:

    Never used Facebook, never will. Welcome back.

  23. 23 Ralph Jones said at 10:45 am on May 5th, 2011:

    I quit it about two years ago. It was the best thing ever. The only thing I hate more than Facebook is people who talk to other people about what they put on Facebook. Don’t miss it, don’t want it.

  24. 24 Heather said at 1:01 pm on May 5th, 2011:

    Must be something in the water…I deleted all of my friends, saved 5 and kept a few important business/local contacts/ artists I like to follow. : ) I knew it was the end when some gal I went to high school with (whom I was never friends with) became…obsesssed???…with things I would post…and was dragging my name all over FB in a bad way. Really??? I don’t have time for this nor do I was to be in this realm anymore. I am all about be more authentic and real this year.

  25. 25 John Peat said at 2:12 pm on May 5th, 2011:

    It’s not really news that used wrongly, Facebook is rubbish…

    Your problem is that you have ‘friends’ who you clearly don’t give a damn about – the solution is simply to remove them…

    Choose your friends wisely – don’t just invite/accept everyone you’ve ever known – and it’s a great way of keeping in-touch.

    Next up: Hammers – when used wrongly can damage your forehead…

  26. 26 David said at 2:44 pm on May 5th, 2011:

    I find it really odd that in response to my quitting Facebook and some thinking that I am telling them that my way is right and theirs is wrong, that they then proceed to tell me that their way is right and mine is wrong. Funny how that works. :)

  27. 27 David said at 3:03 pm on May 5th, 2011:

    Thanks Blake, makes total sense. If someone/something is that important to me, I will talk to them 1 on 1 — not make announcements directed at everyone because I feel what I am doing is important enough for everyone to hear :)

  28. 28 David said at 3:04 pm on May 5th, 2011:

    You mean you don’t like reading about someone being at the mall, only to then talk to them and have them tell you they went to the mall? ;)

  29. 29 David said at 3:04 pm on May 5th, 2011:

    Amen. It feels too narcissistic, stalky, and kindergarten-y now for me too :)

  30. 30 Joe said at 3:54 pm on May 5th, 2011:

    I agree with those worthless things you pointed out – people with their nonsense updates and random crap.

    However, FB gets me in touch with my friends who live quite far from me. And I’m able to filter out those non-important people as well. The secret is to use the delete function =p

  31. 31 Valerie said at 3:58 pm on May 5th, 2011:

    For those who think staying in touch with family and close friends is the ultimate pro-facebook argument, wake up. If you live faraway and want to see them, try skype! It’s a much more personal and fulfilling way to update one another. To become defensive about the content of this post is to own up to your own fears of living without it.

  32. 32 Andy said at 6:09 pm on May 5th, 2011:

    I got off Facebook last fall and have been enjoying the “extra” time in the real world.

  33. 33 Ivan Lutrov said at 6:39 pm on May 5th, 2011:

    Apart from a business experiment I’m conducting with their “pages” facility, I have absolutely no interest in Facebook and the way it promises to “connect” people with each other.

    I can relate to everything you’ve said about the spam, noise, and disruption to real life, and don’t know anyone who uses Facebook, but who (in my opinion) doesn’t waste much time on it.

    But then again, we all waste time in some ways, according to other people’s opinions.

  34. 34 Alfred said at 7:32 pm on May 5th, 2011:

    Hi, Sad that you are missing an important tool to catch with your friends. Especially when you are living in a really big country. There are some people you will never meet again.

    I use Facebook for its original intention to build a network of friends and work friends. It is slow going since I don’t have the class list of my grade school (primary), middle school (secondary). I am still trying to some of friends when we were serving National Service.

    Games? never played them. Sometimes when I am vane, I post a few photos. Groups and related stuff. Joined a few, usually dead as a door nail. I think most people click just for the sake of it.

  35. 35 Frank B. said at 1:56 am on May 6th, 2011:

    damn, where’s the “I like” button on this page …

  36. 36 Ervin said at 3:03 am on May 6th, 2011:

    Well by the looks of it you weren’t applying the Simple. Organized. Life. priciples to your facebook account, in fact it was a total mess there.

    I keep in my friend list only people I know and that I consider them as friends, or have some other meaningful connection to them (not just facebook buddies)… They are neatly split into groups and I have nice privacy settings setup for each group. Have blocked all games, no more farmville stupid updates… no more people shooting guns at me from mafia…

    As for the updates.. the people I want to keep there that are my friends but really do post stupid updates… well I just turn of their updates.. and I can just connect with them when ever I feel like… or whenever they catch me on the chat…

    If the people you have in your list are really your friends.. a nice request to remove a photo is enouth to keep a neat image on facebook. If that fails you can always request help from facebook as your image is a private asset, and you can request any photograp containing your image to be removed.

    Facebook is a good environment to run psyhological test, analyze human behaviour based on stimulae, and can really help if you plan on working in a social or communication/marketing field.

    I can tell you that facebook is not for everybody… and no website is… and I agree with you that it has a great potential of becoming a total waste of time, even for the people that could get any real use out of it… but as long as you use it efficiently, and keep an clean “working environment” it can provide a nice added value… and not just result in a waste of time.

  37. 37 Kristen said at 4:51 am on May 6th, 2011:

    I’m glad the Facebook-free life works for you. But as a freelancer, I hear repeatedly that a Facebook presence keeps me in touch with potential clients and referrers. Although I prefer LinkedIn because it’s more professional, I find that many of my colleagues don’t use it — they use Facebook. Just as I need to attend the in-person networking events where my colleagues are, I also need to be in the same online networking places they are. I agree Facebook is a time drain, and I’d give it up if I thought it prudent. Maybe someday, when I have so much business by real-world word of mouth that I don’t need any virtual-world word of mouth.

  38. 38 Craig said at 5:07 am on May 6th, 2011:

    I just have to clarify, I did enjoy the article, and I do agree, if something is taking up your time unnecessarily, then do without it. I know I have to be carefull with things like computer games, I can get lost in them for weeks, ‘wasting a lot of my time’, so I don’t play as much anymore. For some people FB is a waste of their time, because they don’t seem able to restrict themselves, (that is not a judgement, I am unable to restrict myself with games, so I understand) But with FB I use it sparingly and like I said before to keep in touch with family and friends scattered throughout the world. And to the person who said use skype, My family in Africa, cannot afford to skype, their internet is not so readily available with enough bandwidth, and they get charged per minute, So FB is much better for them. Skype is resource hungry, and they are all using older computers.

  39. 39 Craig said at 5:35 am on May 6th, 2011:

    Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
    http://mashable.com/2011/05/04/facebook-buy-skype/
    This is hilarious.

  40. 40 Marilou said at 7:19 am on May 6th, 2011:

    I agree with you. I, too, closed my facebook account. The more I read other’s daily entries, the more I felt that my life is boring. Now, I feel my life is more interesting than ever. And I don’t have to keep up with the Joneses. HURRAY!

  41. 41 dtb said at 7:55 am on May 6th, 2011:

    WOW! I could have written this myself, even up to the time when you left. After several attempts to back off or slow down I finally threw in the towel and left completely.

    Ah, sweet peace and solitude has returned to my home. I can actually spend time thinking about things that matter.

    My closest friends and family send me an email if there is a special article or really good joke they think I would like, and if anything serious happens, I get a phone call. The rest of you 600 million can do what you like. I am FREE!

  42. 42 Andrej said at 10:19 am on May 6th, 2011:

    I saw more of these posts recently and I don’t understand why people write them.

    I find Facebook very very useful, actually. Just a week ago I was able to publish an update ‘moving to xxx for summer. Anyone has apartment for crashing?’. Turns out, one friend I knew for about a week now lives there by himself and replied that he’d be happy for me to join him and halve his rent costs. Win Win. It saved me SO much trouble.

    That’s just a single example and I could elaborate further about other occasions., but in short it’s been useful in the past, and I find all kinds of interesting content from my friends, all the time.

    Facebook is what you make of it. Goodbye

  43. 43 Monstro said at 12:24 pm on May 6th, 2011:

    I quit facebook about a year ago, was off of it for several months. Then I found out a friend of mine had died suddenly and I didn’t hear about it for a week because I wasn’t on Facebook.

    So I went back. I basically check in on it once a day or so, and play Scrabble with some friends, and that’s it.

  44. 44 Sarah said at 5:49 pm on May 6th, 2011:

    I completely understand. I am there right now.
    I won’t go on for months/weeks (notice the absence of daily?– That would just be too dangerous!-ie too much wasting of my time) then, when I do, I am there for 2-3 hours (!!) Getting caught up on news on acquaintances (etc), then I will waste time thinking about what I will post for the next two days…then promptly forget about it all for the next while.
    Then Repeat.
    So, to take the time to make FB ‘simplified’ enough to work for me…it would take more time than it would be worth! (at the moment)
    So I have just continued this cycle and it has been semi-working for me thus far.
    It makes catching up easier with close friends’ without much effort.
    Which also FAILS to Deepen these relationships (which people won’t admit to) even though I know what they are up to. Yet…
    I don’t want to quit (it is a good way to get the word out with little effort which is its appeal!)…not sure what I will do.
    Great post! TONS of feedback on this one :-)

  45. 45 Mykal said at 12:50 am on May 7th, 2011:

    David,

    Im 24 and I think I’m part of the last generation that knew what growing up was like before facebook or the internet. I deleted my account about 3 months ago and I had several reasons. We share most of them. I’ve never looked back. Thought it was going to be tough. Not so much. And the benefits have been great.

    But one thing that I’ve found is that its nearly impossible to explain yourself and your reasoning for being done with facebook to others that are on facebook. People either get offended as they think you are being self righteous in some way or try to explain to you how to use it as if you were doing it wrong or say well why not just keep it open and limit how much you check it? But they themselves know thats not how it works.

    It uses up brain power and hard drive space up there. Even if you limit your use of it. Its a mindset that I’m sure scientists will do studies on years down the road and find crazy dependence issues in users because of it.

    Its funny watching people get so worked up over it one way or another. That alone is what pushed me over the edge. As like isn’t it funny that this is what its become?

    Now if I ever see someone else trying to explain why they left facebook (which isnt often) I just kinda smile and nod knowing I absolutely get where they are coming from.

    *Smiles and Nods*

    ;)

  46. 46 deborah said at 12:18 pm on May 7th, 2011:

    Your article fails to mention that Facebook can only share with others what you choose to share with Facebook. I simply do not include my phone number, address, photos, relationships to others, etc. Then, FB can’t share any of that info with marketers.

  47. 47 Khan said at 5:17 am on May 8th, 2011:

    watching people updates you really don’t know = watching all the 200 channels on you TV subscription (Who’s forcing you to do so?)
    sharing your home numbers, email addresses, home addresses = OK, then post no information (Who’s forcing you to do so?)
    blogs & emails = think about reading 100 emails, and then reading 100 wallposts (which one is faster?)
    sense of privacy doesn’t exist = same like windows at your home reduces the sense of privacy? (oh, and do you know about security settings in facebook?)

  48. 48 Rodrigo said at 5:24 pm on May 8th, 2011:

    Thanks so much for your posts. Are really inspiring and helps me in the continue process to growth and try to be a better person.

  49. 49 Tim said at 12:40 am on May 9th, 2011:

    Yeah, it’s a waste of time. But so is going to a concert, watching a movie, take a walk in the park, go to a bar, read a novell…

  50. 50 Andrew said at 7:44 am on May 10th, 2011:

    Stumbled upon this post in Google Reader, and I agree with most everything you said. I kicked facebook too about 2 months ago, and haven’t regretted it since. I think there are better ways to keep in touch with the people you really want to keep in touch with (and it’s OK to lose track of old friends sometimes…) and the amount of data that facebook collects is kind of disturbing.

  51. 51 Jagmeet Singh said at 8:04 am on May 10th, 2011:

    I completely Agree with you David.. This is how, millions of people wasting their time.

  52. 52 David said at 3:20 pm on May 10th, 2011:

    And even if one thinks they aren’t collecting everything, they are… and it’s being used against you by marketers. Thanks for the comment Andrew.

  53. 53 David said at 3:22 pm on May 10th, 2011:

    Ah, but those are all things that get you outdoors, educated, or talking to actual people. FB keeps many people sitting inside on the couch instead of participating in real life. :)

  54. 54 David said at 3:22 pm on May 10th, 2011:

    If you think those security settings are failsafe, I have a bridge to sell you. :)

  55. 55 David said at 3:23 pm on May 10th, 2011:

    FB can and does. It may not be visible to your friends from high school, but if you gave any of it to FB, they have it and they use it.

  56. 56 David said at 3:24 pm on May 10th, 2011:

    It’s very strange indeed. I would never tell people that they are stupid for continuing to use FB, but yet people think it’s ok to call me stupid for not using it. Some days it’s like talking to a wall. :)

  57. 57 David said at 3:24 pm on May 10th, 2011:

    Amen!

  58. 58 David said at 3:25 pm on May 10th, 2011:

    Actually, I just applied every principle to my FB account — I got rid of it. :)

  59. 59 Jay Mumper said at 8:58 am on May 11th, 2011:

    I dropped off Facebook a year ago. I don’t miss it.

  60. 60 Steve Sherron said at 2:06 pm on May 18th, 2011:

    I love finding others who feel as I do. I’m getting ready to pull the trigger on my FB page also. This was refreshing. Thanks.

  61. 61 Gavin said at 8:44 am on May 26th, 2011:

    I blame the user. You choose what your Facebook experience will be. I live in a major city, and Facebook has been another tool that helps me stay connected to my neighborhood. With RSS, mailing lists, blogs and Twitter, Facebook is just another tool and only good if you use it properly. The Events feature is particularly useful, for discovering and organizing local events.

  62. 62 Lucas Dellaretti said at 6:52 am on July 1st, 2011:

    I understand because it excludes the Facebook but I do not think I would have the same courage. Facebook holds us much but is a great source of disclosure. Most of my readers come from there.

  63. 63 tara said at 2:05 pm on July 6th, 2011:

    Great post. I do find it inspiring in my quest to simplify my life. I can see quitting Twitter, but not Facebook just yet, because I do communicate with family on it. A few months ago I “unfriended” everyone but family, so I’ve simplified it way down but still use it.

    I’ve had a blog for years but my family doesn’t really want to comment on it online. They seem to like FB, so I’ll keep it for now. I may really quit Twitter now. The people I follow are bloggers, and I already subscribe to their blogs using Google Reader. For me, Twitter is more trouble than it’s worth.

    I hear that quitting facebook is the new “killing your television.”

  64. 64 Miss J said at 5:32 pm on July 18th, 2011:

    I de-activated my account about 3 weeks ago just for an extended break. I had a lot to think about *my* own situation so I didn’t want to clutter my thoughts with others status updates. I’ll probably re-activate my account down the line – I have close friends & family overseas that only like FB as their form of getting in touch. When I do re-activate my account, I’ll start by looking at my “Friends” list and doing a major cull. All the games & requests etc have already been blocked but I made the mistake of liking a LOT of pages so I get updates from those everyday so I have to block those too. Someday… I’m not ready to go back yet. They can call me if they URGENTLY need to get in touch with me.

  65. 65 Chris Lee said at 10:15 pm on August 10th, 2011:

    Great, GREAT post. Thank you for sharing. I quit FB also, and never looked back.

    I see Facebook change how friends/family are starting to relate to one another on more meaningful levels. Facebook can, and often does, represent the bare minimum effort one can bother to make to still be ‘friends’ with someone. Facebook is supposed to make us feel closer to other people, but instead, Facebook was starting to make me feel more alone.

    Facebook essentially gives you the emotional sense that you’re doing something worthwhile (i.e. connecting with people), but when you step back and look at your actions and results from a more objective perspective, it becomes clear that you’re really just spinning your wheels. You can call it social networking, but it’s not really a social experience if you’re actually alone sitting at a computer. Real socialization is face to face.

    Chris

  66. 66 james said at 3:32 pm on February 20th, 2012:

    Hey there, I came across your site literally hours ago, and I’m hooked! I was searching in google “how to be organized” when your site popped out, and I’m glad it did. You have some practical information that add up to my knowledge regarding living “simply.” My life recently has been filled with clutter and I’m having a hard time getting rid of unnecessary baggages. Anyway, it’s funny how in the past hour, we already have 3 things in common, 1. Wants to live a simple and organized life 2. Read Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now 3. Doesn’t worship facebook.

    I”ll be glad to hear a reply from you.

    James

  67. 67 Dalia mostafa said at 4:15 pm on March 19th, 2012:

    Spot on! Thank you so much for making me feel at home. I have been a dedicated facebooker since 2007, and decided out before it swallowed more precious years and opportunities. I just deactivated my two accounts a couple of days back and pray it is permanent. Ever since I got hooked to Fb, I have abandoned and lost complete interest in my phd thesis, actual social functions not to mention a weird numbness and multiple depressive episodes.
    I truly wish to connect to other people like me who are undergoing so to speak rehab, or detox from a very cluttered virtual space where ample possibilities are no different from zero possibilities. I am craving for a simpler, better managed life/time. I would really love to reconnect with my academic world, albeit still connect with family and friends.

    Thank you so much for your inspiring note

  68. 68 SHANNON MATTHEWS said at 12:56 pm on September 13th, 2012:

    I agree with this article completely and have more viewpoints.

    When I started Facebook I ended up getting a high school reunion I could have done with out and old relationships. Suddenly I became this angry, profane, irritable,person I didn’t know. It’s funny how this happened to me.

    Typing, texting and twittering is so cold and impersonal. First to get what you need to say out you have to long on some site or phone and go through the hassles of typing all the words letters emoticons which is adds more stress unless you find this process fun. Sometimes there are times you have to like be “there” to see emotions instead of trying to imagine how the person’s face look or wonder if the persons crying or what.

    If you are a typical, sociable, popular, normal, person and those who have lots events in their lives this is a good thing most times. if you are opposite of these and want to talk about something outside of everyday life or what you did today Facebook is not for you. You’ll be typing in vain and you’ll be “talking to a digital silicon wall” or ending up in some useless group or page. It’s also common to have something you say/do/have something negative happening to you get likes. And don’t forget the viruses and hackers out there!

    Love Facebook or Hate It!

  69. 69 Debbie said at 11:32 pm on October 23rd, 2012:

    I have thought of quitting FB but it does have some benefits. I share pics with family and friends and once I’ve uploaded them, I am not so worried if one of the hard drives I have them stored on crash and poof, they’re all gone (that has happened to me). I realize there are other photo storing sites but FB is easy. It’s also how I get to see instant pics of my grandkids. I think I am ready to scale it way way back though, maybe only check it once a day and then eventually once a week..baby steps. I have also had some of the foreign exchange students whom I hosted 20+ years ago reconnect with me via Facebook which has been fabulous. I do see it as a time sucker though. I find I can sit down for a quick glance and 3 hours later I’m still sitting here, not getting anything accomplished like quilting, sewing, etc. Yes, you have inspired me to become a FB minimalist. Thank you for your excellent post.

  70. 70 maarige qureshi said at 6:17 am on September 14th, 2013:

    my facebook update 2013

  71. 71 James said at 2:46 am on December 25th, 2013:

    I was thinking to close my FB account for the next year.


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